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ETIQUETTE OF GREETINGS IN ISLAM 
 
 
 

The following Ahadith are related to various aspects of greetings in Islam. 

(1) It is in Hadith - Narrated Abu Huraira (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) : The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) said, "Allah (سبحانہ و تعا لی) created Adam (علیھ السلا م ), making him 60 cubits tall. When He created him, He said to him, "Go and greet that group of angels, and listen to their reply, for it will be your greeting (Salutation) and the greeting  of your offspring." So, Adam (علیھ السلا م) said (to the angels), As-Salamu Alaikum (Peace be upon you). The angels said, "As-salamu Alaika wa Rahmatullahi" (Peace and Allah's -  سبحانہ و تعا لی - Mercy be upon you). Thus the angels added to Adam's (علیھ السلا م ) Salutation the expression, 'Wa Rahmatullahi,' Any person who will enter Paradise will resemble Adam (علیھ السلا م) (being his offspring). People have been decreasing in stature since Adam's (علیھ السلا م) creation. (Bukhari - Book #55, Hadith #543).

(2) It is in Hadith - Narrated Ummul Momineen Aisha (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا):, “I have not seen any person who resembled the Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) more in his speech than Fatimah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا). Whenever she would come in the presence of Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم)  he would stand up, welcome her, kiss her hands and seat her in the same place where he was sitting. And when Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) would go to her, she would also stand up and kiss his hand.” (Sunan Abi Dawood, Tirmidhi, Nasai and Mustadrak Hakim).

(3) It is in Hadith - It was narrated that Usamah Ibn Shareek (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) said: We stood up for the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) and kissed his hand. (Abu Bakr ibn al-Muqqari in Juz Taqbeel al-Yad page-58.   Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said its isnaad are good).

(4) It is in Hadith -Imam Hakim and Imam Tabrani narrated that when Jafar bin Abi Talib returned from Abyssinia, Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) kissed him between his eyes and said, “I don’t know if I am more happy with the return of Jafar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)  or with the conquest of Khaybar.” (Hakim and Tabarani).

(5) It is in Hadith - It was narrated from ‘Awn ibn Abi Juhayfah that his father said: When Ja’far came after he had migrated to Abyssinia, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) embraced him and kissed him between the eyes. (Abu Dawud in Sunan, Ibn Abi Shaybah in Musannaf and Tabarani in al-Kabeer  2/108).

(6) It is in Hadith - It was narrated that Anas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) said: When the companions of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) met they would shake hands with one another, and if they had come from a journey they would embrace one another. ( Tabarani in al-Awsat 1/37 ).

(7) It is in Hadith - Narrated Abu Huraira (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ): Allah's Apostle (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) kissed Al-Hasan bin Ali (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) while Al-Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamim(رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) said, "I have ten children and I have never kissed anyone of them," Allah's Apostle (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) cast a look at him and said, "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully."(Bukhari Book #73, Hadith #26 and  Muslim).

(8) It is in Hadith - It is narrated by Abdullah bin al-Harith (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that he said, Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) described Abdullah bin Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) and his two brothers, Ubaidullah and Katheer (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہم) and he said, “Whoever races to me, he’ll get such a prize.” They all raced to him and jumped on his back and chest. He hugged them and kissed them. (Ahmad).

(9) It is in Hadith - Narrated  Ummul Momineen Aisha (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) that she said, “I saw Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) kiss Uthmaan bin Madhoon (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) while tears were rolling down his cheeks.” (Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Ibn al-Arabi).  

(10) It is in Hadith - Narrated Ibn 'Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ): Once the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) embraced me and said, "O'Allah (سبحانہ و تعا لی) ! Bestow on him the knowledge of the Book (Qur'an)." (Bukhari Book #3, Hadith #75).
 
(11) It is in Hadith - Narrated Ummul Momineen Aisha (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا): Zayd ibn Haarithah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) came to Madina and the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) was in my house. He came to him and knocked at the door and the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) stood up and embraced him and kissed him. (Tirmidhi # 2732).

(12) It is in Hadith - Qadi Abu Ya’la narrates that Ummul Momineen Aisha (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) said, “I saw Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) hugging Ali (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) and kissing him.”

(13) It is in Hadith -  It is narrated that once Zaid bin Thaabit (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) was riding his horse. As an act of honor Ibn Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) came in front and took the reins of the horse. Zaid (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) stopped him from doing so,  saying that you are the cousin of Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم), how can I let you do such an act. However, Ibn Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) replied, “This is how we have been commanded to revere and honor our scholars.” Zaid bin Thaabit (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) kissed the hands of Ibn Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) and said, “This is how we have been commanded to respect the noble household of the Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم).” 

Above Hadith is reported by Hakim in his Mustadrak who has authenticated this narration by saying that it fulfills the conditions of Imam Muslim. Ad-Dhahabi  did not object to this verdict of Imam Hakim).  Ibn Hajar Asqalani  also reported this Hadith  under section  'biography of Abdullah bin Abbas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)'  on the authority of Sha’bi(رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)

(14) It is in Hadith - Narrated from Dhiraar bin Umar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) who narrates from Abu Rafi (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that Umar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) dispatched an army to Rome in which Abdullah bin Hudhafa (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) was also sent. The Roman army enjoyed great strength and power. They imprisoned the Muslims. The king of Rome told Abdullah bin Hudhafa (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that if he converts to Christianity, the king will make him a partner of his kingdom. Abdullah bin Hudhafa (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) blatantly refused. On this the king ordered that Abdullah bin Hudhafa (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) be hung on a cross and shot with arrows from every side. This order was executed; however, even on the cross, Hadhrat Abdullah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) appeared to be totally content without any sign of fear. Seeing this, the king ordered that he be taken off the cross and ordered that water be heated in a cauldron. Thereafter, he commanded that one prisoner should be burnt. The flesh of the prisoner began to melt away from his body and his bones became visible. After showing Hadhrat Abdullah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) this scene, the king ordered that he be thrown into this boiling water. When Hadhrat Abdullah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) was brought to the cauldron, he began to sob bitterly. The king ordered that he be brought back and asked him the reason for crying. He replied, “I am sad and I regret that I only have one life. When I am thrown in this water, my life will be over. If only I had a hundred lives and I could use every life to burn in this boiling water.” The king was awestruck and taken aback by Hadhrat Abdullah’s (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) steadfastness.  The king said, “If you do one thing, I will free you; just kiss my head.” Hadhrat Abdulah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) replied, “I will do so only if you free all the Muslim prisoners.” The king accepted this and Hadhrat Abdullah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) kissed his head. On this the king ordered that he and all the Muslim prisoners be freed. When all these Muslims returned to Umar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ), he stood up and kissed them on their foreheads. (Baihaqi)

(15) It is in Hadith - Imam al-Ghazzali (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) states that Haddrat Abu Ubaida bin Jarrah  (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) kissed the hand of Haddrat Umar Farouk  (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ). ( Keemya-e-Sa'adat and Awaariful Mu'aarif ).

(16) It is in Hadith -  It is narrated that Tamim bin Salamah said: “When Umar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) came to Syria, Abu Ubaidah bin al-Jarrah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) came to welcome him. He shook and kissed the hands of Umar (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ).” (Sufyaan's Jami).

(17) It is in Hadith - Narrated  Ibn Mas’ood  (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ): "The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم)  taught me the "Tashahhud," holding my hand between both of his." (Bukhari # 6265 and Muslim # 402).

(18) It is in Hadith - Narrated Umaymah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) the daughter of Raqeeqah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا) said: The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) said: “I do not shake hands with women.” (Nasai  # 4181; Ibn Maajah # 2874).

(19) It is in Hadith - Imam Ahmad and Imam Bukhari reported that Thaabit (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) said to Anas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ), “Have you touched Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) with your hands.” Anas (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) replied in the affirmative. On this, Thaabit(رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) kissed his hands. (Bukhari, Ahmad).

(20) It is in Hadith -   Narrated  from Yahya bin Harith Adh Dhimari (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that he said, “I met Wathilah bin Asqa (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) and asked, “You pledge allegiance on the hands of Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) with this hand?” He replied in the affirmative. I submitted, “Please stretch out your hand so that I can kiss it.” He fulfilled my request and I kissed his hand.” (Tabarani).    (Haythami also narrated this Hadith and said that the chain of narrators of this Hadith is strong).

(21) It is in Hadith - Narrates Ayaas bin Dughful (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ): “I saw Abu Nadhirah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) kiss the cheeks of Hasan bin Ali (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) .” (Abu Dawood).


 
Above Ahadith signify the following points
 

(1) When two Muslims meet they should greet each other by saying  'Assalamu Alaikum' which should be replied by 'Wa alaikum Assalaam wa rahamtullahi wa barakatuhu'. 

(2) If the circumstances and  the requirement of the meeting demand, they can shake hands as well.

(3) If the occasion demands, they can hug each other to show extreme happiness of their meeting.  There is no need to hug (embrace) each other in everyday meetings in offices, schools, mosques, etc. 

(4) Hugging (Mu'aniqa) at the time of Eid, festivals, etc., are allowed.  Embracing on special occasions, like someone has qualified in a big exam or got a very good job and his parents or relatives hugging him out of happiness,  or hugging a person when he came back  after a long time, etc.,  are also allowed.

(5) Kissing of children on their cheeks is allowed.  Parents can kiss their children on cheeks, foreheads and can hug their children on special occasions to show extreme happiness. Mothers can kiss their infant babies on lips as well.  Similarly, children can kiss their parents on their foreheads, hands, knees and feet, etc.     

(6) When we meet our elders, parents and religious scholars, we can kiss their hands as a show of love and respect.  There are many authentic Ahadith in this context.  

(7) When we meet with our Shaikh-e-Tareeqat, or  well known Shaikh of our time, we can kiss his feet.

(8) On Eid and other special occasions, we can kiss the feet of our parents, scholars and religious teachers as well.

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(9) When elders visit our homes, it is important that we stand to greet them and let them sit at a prominent place.

(10) Some Shuyooks and Scholars do not like people touch their feet and kiss them.  We should not insist to kiss or touch their feet against their wish. In such a case we can kiss their hands.  If they do not allow even kissing of their hands, it is better to stand for them and say Assalamu Alaikum.  Our stature in standing in front of them should show our humility.  We should not stand in front of them in a lax way or stand-with-pride as we do with our friends and youngsters. Our body language should indicate our respect and love for them.  

(11) Some Shuyooks allow their Murideen to kiss their feet.  This is done as part of training of Murideen so that they develop extreme humility in their character.  Thus, kissing of feet of Shuyooks is part of Tazkia of Murideen.

(12) Some people say that there are so called Shaikhs who demand their Murideen to kiss their feet  as a mark of superiority and show of pride in public. In case we find this kind of characteristics in a person, it is better we avoid his company.

(13) Some people request Shuyooks to stretch their feet so that they can kiss them.  In such a case, it is up to the Shaikh to accept their request or politely stretch their hand for kiss.

(14) It is written in Fataawa Hindiya (Alamgiri)  that “If a person requests a scholar (عالم) or an ascetic person (زاهد ) to spread out his leg to kiss it, it will not be permissible for him to stretch it out and therefore he should not respond according to some scholars.  Some scholars however claim that he should respond to this request. The same will be if he requests to kiss the scholar’s or ascetic person’s head and hands."


 
 
Correct Understanding of some Ahadith

 
(1) It is in Hadith - Narrated Anas bin Malik (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)  that a person asked, “O'Prophet of Allah(صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم), when any of us meets his brother or friend, should he bow (inhinaa) to him?” Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) replied, “No!”  (Tirmidhi reported this Hadith as Hasan).
 
(2) It is in Hadith - Narrated Qatadah (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا): I said to Anas(رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہا): Did the companions of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) shake hands with one another? He said: Yes. (Bukhari # 5908).

(3) It is in Hadith - “Tirmidhi narrates from Anas bin Malik (رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) that a person inquired from  Prophet Mohammad (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) “If anyone of us meets a brother or friend, should he bow before him?” Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) replied in the negative. He further asked, “Should he embrace him and kiss him?” Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) replied in the negative. The person then asked, “Should he shake his hands?” Prophet (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) replied in the affirmative.” (Tirmidhi). Bayhaqi and Imam Ahmad considered the above Hadith as weak.  Al-Bani considered this Hadith as Hasan.

 

The above Ahadith establish following points:  

(i) When brothers (cousins)  and friends meet with each other as a routine, it is sufficient to  say Assalamu Alaikum and  and shake hands (if required). 

(ii) On special occasions, kissing of hands, forehead or hugging (embracing) is proved from Ahadith (Refer Ahadith at Nos. 3, 4, 8, 9 in the beginning of the Article).

(iii) Kissing of each others cheek as a routine greeting is Haraam in Islam as it has been specifically forbidden by  Prophet Mohammad (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم)  in Hadith # 3 above.    

Salafis practice of kissing each others' cheek, as per the above Hadith, is  Haraam  because Salafis  have made it a routine and compulsory social tradition and custom which was forbidden by Prophet Mohammad (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم).

Imam Abu Hanifa and Imam Muhammad are of the opinion that it is makrooh (nearest to Haraam) if a male kisses another male on  cheek (even occasionally). In Imam Abu Youssef's opinion,  kiss on cheek on rare occasions is allowed. 

Indiscriminate Salafi Cheek Kissing between men, or between women,  or cross cheek kissing between men and  women, as a compulsory social tradition, is indeed deplorable by all Islamic standards and a clear cut disobedience of Prophet Mohammad (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) commandments (refer Hadith # 3 above).

 
 
This kind of kissing  has become widespread in  Salafi Society. 
 
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 KISSING OF THUMBS DURING AZA'N

 

The following Hadith and statements of scholars confirm the fact that 'Kissing of thumbs and index fingers and placing them over  the eyes is  during Azan is Mustahib.

It is in Hadith - It is narrated that whenever he (Abu Bakr Siddique - رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) heard the Mu'addhin say: "I bear witness that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah", he would repeat this (phrase)  and would kiss the tip of the index fingers (or thumbs) and wipe his eyes. The Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) said: whosoever does what my friend (Abu Bakr Siddique - رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) did, my intercession will come down upon him. (Ad-Daylamee in Musnadul-Firdaws by way of  Tadhkiratul-Mawdoo’aat - page 36)  and al-Mawdoo’aatul-Kabeer - page-75).

 

Mulla Ali al-Qari said, “If this Hadith is Sahih up to Abu Bakr ( رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ) then it is enough to act upon it.
 
It is in Hadith -  Prophet  (صلى الله عليه و آله وسلم) said, “My Sunnah and the Sunnah of my rightly guided Caliphs is obligatory upon you.” (Abu Dawud # 4607 and Tirmidhi # 2676).
 
Imam Shamsuddin Sakhawi has quoted in his book 'al-Maqaasid al-Hasanah' that  Imam Hassan ( رضئ اللہ تعالی عنہ)  said that whoever kisses his thumbs and index fingers and rubs them over his eyes during Azan, will never become blind and will never suffer from eye diseases. 
 
Syed Mohammad Amin Shami in his Raddul Mukhtar (the book of fiqh) has written that kissing of thumbs and rubbing them over the eyes during Azan is Mustahib. 
 
Shaikh Jamal bin Abdullah Makki, Mufti of Makka Al-Mukarrama said that kissing of thumbs and index fingers and placing them over the eyes is Mustahib. (Aala Hazrat Ahmad Radha Khan-  رحمتہ اللہ علیہ reported this in his book  Munir-ul-Ayn) 
 
However, many Muhadditheen say that since this Hadith is weak (Da'if), therefore the act of kissing of thumbs and index fingers and placing them over the eyes is  Mustahib and not an obligatory Sunnah.
 
Weak Ahadith  are not considered as false or fabricated (Maudu') and this Hadith is considered by more than 99% of Muhaddithin as definitely not Maudu'.
 
   

 
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